But....How do you do it???

March 1, 2014 

  

So as you all may know my husband is a firefighter for the DOD. And if you don't know, well, now you do. His job means that he gets the opportunity to work for the military in different countries around the world. To say that im jealous would just be an understatement. He's been just about everywhere, from Iraq to the middle of the south pacific on a island called Kwajalein, to Africa where he is currently. So this leads to the reason why I'm blogging right now. We've been married almost 5 years and in our 5 years of marriage he has always worked overseas, it's nothing new to me or us. So with that being said, im going to answer the questions that i get asked on a regular basis in the most upfront honest way. So here we go.....

"How the heck does your marriage work with him being gone all the time?"

It's quite simple actually. It's called "Communication". And to be honest, i bet our communication skills are probably better then the marriages of people who are around each other 24/7.  There isn't one thing that the other half doesn't know, whether it be where the other person is, to what they had to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner. And THAT is how our marriage works!

"Isn't it hard raising the kids alone?"

Honestly?? It's got it's frustrating moments. There are days where i wish he was here, just so i can shower alone and even poop alone. But is it hard? No. There are women who raise their kids alone everyday, I'm not any different. And I'm not going to act like a martyr.

"Why doesn't he get a job in the states?"

Why should he? A lot of people ask this because they think that it's lonely and not healthy to have a distant marriage or whatever, when in fact this situation works perfectly for us. He not only makes great money, but he enjoys what he does. And who am i to not let him do what he loves? As a wife, i feel it's part of my job to make sure he is happy, and if he is happy working with the troops in another country then by golly who am i to take that away from him.

Our marriage may not be perfect, but it's perfect for us. We Skype on the daily, and talk on the phone sometimes 3 times a day. We miss each other like something fierce when he's gone, but we both know it's part of our routine. Both our kids know what dad does, and why he does what he does. I've had LONG conversations with Joey about his Dad, and I've never in my life seen a boy light up so bright  whenever he talks about what his dad does to other people. We are so proud of Patrick and what he does and us Bledsoe's support him in every way possible. You know why?? BECAUSE WE'RE AWESOME!!

So I'm hoping i answered any questions, and gave some understanding. So until next time!